"Experience is a hard teacher because she gives the test first, the lesson afterwards"- Vernon Sanders.
It is not an offence to fail, but it is a crime to repeat the same failure under the same condition or event. It means you have not learnt from the lesson failure taught you!
There are many people whose failures shoveled them into success. How did that happen? They were able to learn from what they experienced. The experience though didn't give them the lesson at first to try, it later provided it and the wise people tried again with a wiser method.
What you repeatedly fail can be dealt with if you persist to make good use of experiences. Never see failure as a torture or a punishment... See it as a hard teacher so that you will not fail her tests on repeated referrals.
Whatever you go through in life, take the lessons it gives you. You cannot grow without experience. Experience, although a hard teacher, it differentiate the mature people from old once.